Yep, we’re done! Enough was enough! I couldn’t take it any longer! Our relationship had me in a crippled state. I couldn’t act, think, or function the way I was designed to.
You have no idea what it was like to allow such a hindrance in my life, as I endeavored to fulfill my God given purpose. I just knew I was created for something special. There was a burning in my heart and soul to move forward, but every time I tried to accomplish something…anything…everything…I was pulled back.
Don’t get me wrong, at first I thought the whole arrangement was charming…very unique…one of a kind. Our many embraces wrapped me in pure tenderness and comfort. And, oh my my my, the pillow talk at night was out of this world – so intense, so very convincing. Our level of intimacy was extraordinary! It was all quite magical, yet mysterious at the same time. To a certain extent, it felt like I was encompassed in a safety net…so protected…so secure. Nothing could get to me, and I certainly couldn’t explore anything else.
AND THEN I CAUGHT SENSE!!!
You see, my extraordinary, intimate relationship with this monster called FEAR, eventually started to feel like a death grip. In hindsight, I see what an unhealthy, evil, manipulative partner it was. The destruction was silent, slow, and subtle. It had a way of squeezing the life out of my thoughts, ideas, dreams…my existence.
Especially during this season of transition, my relationship with fear became most debilitating. I decided that if I was to venture into new, unfamiliar territory during this midlife transformation, I was going to need a new partner to hold me, embrace me, and love me up. So clearly Mr. FEAR had to get kicked to the curb!
Something that sealed the deal, one of my GAME CHANGERS, was a song by Francesca Battistelli entitled “The Breakup Song”. It goes like this......
Sick and tired of being sick and tired Had as much of you as I can take I’m so done, so over being afraid
I’ve gone through the motions I’ve been back and forth
I know that you’re thinking you’ve heard this before I don’t know how to say it So I’m just gonna say it
Fear, you don’t own me There ain’t no room in this story And I ain’t got time for you Telling me what I’m not Like you know me...well guess what? I know who I am I know I’m strong And I am free Got my own identity So fear, you will never be welcome here
I’m sure there are many of you who are experiencing a shift, a turn, a transition in your life. Maybe, you’re done with going through the motions, day in and day out. You have something burning so deep in you, that you think about all day and at night while in bed.
Unfortunately, you’re in bed with fear, and it has proven to be very jealous, forcing you to stay committed to it. And every single time you seek to venture out of the norm, it immobilizes you. If you’re not careful, it will strip away the desires for new experiences that you have in your heart.
Breaking up is usually not easy, but for your peace, protection, preservation, and progress, you better do what you have to do. You might need to call on your tribe to help you out – things could get emotional.
Give it one last kiss if you wish. But regardless of how long that kiss lasts, if you want to live a fulfilling life, you’ve got to KISS FEAR GOODBYE!
After I kissed fear goodbye, a new, loving, committed, encouraging partner showed up. Well, helllllo there, COURAGE!
Sooooo time to look fear in the eyes and say it loud and strong – GOODBYE! ADIOS! AU REVOIR! SAYONARA! You can even get a bit urban and say PEACE OUT!!
Oh, I almost forgot, here’s the link to Francesca Battistelli’s song, “The Breakup Song”.
For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind. 2 Timothy 1:7 (NKJV)
Much love to you,
About The Author
Lynette is a wife and mother who is passionate about writing. Connecting with other women through her work also brings her great fulfillment. It was this desire to connect and share that inspired her to launch her blog, “It’s not a Crisis…it’s a Metamorphosis”. Lynette's platform shares her experience throughout her mid-life season.
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